Why is it so hard for you to get along with anyone?
Has someone said that to you?
Sex, money, kids, and communication. For many men, these are often the primary concerns that are most troubling and impacting your lives on a daily basis. At The Group for Men’s Counseling, we provide a safe and positive environment for you to share your concerns and develop a deeper understanding of your role in your relationships.
At Work
It is often very difficult to separate our work life with our non-working hours. We often transfer our home-life issues to work and our work based issues to our “off of work” life. You are fooling yourself if you think that your work or home life is not impacted on a daily basis by carrying this baggage with you. We can help you identify the issues that you carry with you, understand the impact of these issues, and create healthy boundaries by setting realistic priorities that will add meaning and joy to your life.
Balancing work and personal needs is a constant battle between the need to work for financial security and personal fulfillment. Learn how to put down your cell phone, become more efficient and valuable at work, learn the power of “no”, reconnect with your family, friends and most importantly yourself. A healthy, productive and rewarding balance is possible if you desire it enough.
Divorce
Long before the decision to separate and divorce, your family has most likely been in turmoil. Whether it is a cold, silent, disengaged house or your house is addicted to yelling, blame, and resentments, members of your family have been deeply impacted by you and your partner. Your children will feel the anger, confusion, and sadness in your home and will look to you for reassurance that they are not the cause of your marriage problems.
It is often difficult to remember that “it’s not all about you”. It’s about making a plan that reassures your children and family members that you are still a family (albeit a bit reformulated) and part of their lives, and that they are still loved. You must be there as a responsible co-parent and be able to offer your family the support that they need when they need it.
With a Partner/Spouse
Communication is often the downfall of many committed relationships. How and when we communicate is as important as what we say. Remember it’s not the words that we use…It’s the words and message that the other person hears that is most important.
Relationships often are strained due to children, financial concerns, friendships, hobbies, and sexual intimacy. Exploring your individual situation will identify the aspects of your relationship that could benefit from direct interventions to specifically help you take responsibility for your part in the relationship and start the process of healing. Healthy, joyful relationships require a commitment to each other and accepting your partner for what and who they are…it is not your job to fix your partner.
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